My EQ - hhhmmm almost on target

Your EQ is 113

You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt.

On an average day, you're quite happy, together, and content. You live your life well.

Your emotions aren't always stable, but you can go along with the ups and downs pretty well.

You tend to be motivated, energetic, focused, and level headed.

You see the world pretty rationally, and you don't tend to over dramatize things. When things are bad, you know they eventually have to get better.


Keep It Hot - Honestly, don't get mad ladies

Why wanted to do a post on Why Men Cheat and Why it seems so hard lately to have a happy relationship and I thought about it. I don't know why men cheat...honestly I'm not a man and I don't know why there aren't more happy relationships. I do know this...as a woman...do your part ladies. You have got to keep your relationship HOT. On all levels. There is so much temptation out there. So much stuff for your man to get into and I'm not saying that is a woman's fault by ANY MEANS. If you are just sitting there nagging about where is he at, where is he going, what is he doing and who is he doing it with...MAN... who wants to hear that? I mean, damn...I know I don't. What are you doing? What are you doing to be productive in the relationship. When we do our part then we can fuss about their part. Are you doing all you can do make sure the relationship is on point? When is the last time you cooked your man a meal? When is the last time you sent him an xrated test in the middle of the day or said "Baby let's figure out a way for us to make some more money together". When is the last time you said "I love you and I need you or I believe in you" or got the massage oil out and rubbed his back...or even just his temples? When is the last time you made your man feel like a man? Seriously ladies, we want to be pampered and nurtured and spoiled and listened to. We want to go shopping and we want all this stuff but it's our duty to make sure we are taking of the home front in order to give your man motivation to want to come home and provide you with all those things. Face it...men need motivation and nothing says motivation like "head in the morning boo boo". Okay okay, I'm kidding but you know what I mean. What you won't do, someone else will....gladly... Dont' be mad. It's just honesty. What you won't do, that heffa that wants him will and she'll make him feel like a King.

This is all to say...make sure you keeping it HOT!

Finally let me just say this. Love IS NOT BLIND! So go to the gym. Keep your body together cause you are the first thing your man looks at in the morning and the last thing he sees before he closes his eyes. Make sure your boo likes what he's looking at. Keep it Hot!

Disclaimer: I know I have the poor little women that feel like I"m too tough on them and shouldn't be siding with the men and there is not excuse but it's been like this since the beginning of time ladies. We have to work a little harder. It is what it is. Just trying to keep you up on game.

Summer Craziness Continues

Wow! My boys are off...up in the air. I think I'll be a little more calm once they have landed in Texas. As of right now, I'm just a little anxious, nervous, sad to have the house so quiet. But then again Cayden is asleep. They looked so handsome going out the door with their suitcases in tow...funny each had a brush and can of grease in one hand along with their summer reading for school. I'm so glad that I didn't have to remind them to get their reading done while they are gone.

Their report cards came in for summer school too! An A for both in Alegebra 2. Sweeeet! Almost makes me want to rethink the public school thing. If you don't remember from a previous post, I sent them to public school for summer school in order to avoid the cost of private school during the summer and to give them a just a little break. Almost scarey how easily they breezed through the class but it makes me feel so much better about my decision to send them to a school were they have to work a little harder in the classroom. Unfortunatley the summer reading that is required for the start of the school year includes a list of books that are all about 450 plus pages. Twin A chose a book about De La Salle High School Football and Twin B chose a book about The Patriot League. That should have been a given huh?

So just a few more things going on. My dad sent me a picture of the haircut he gave CJ. I nearly crapped my pants. I was so furious but I love my daddy so much how could I ever let him know how much it bothered me. I figured if I acted up he'd only say, "you aren't here so why do you care". Then I'd say "but they know he's my child and he looks horrible...blah blah blah". Then they'd tell me how it's only hair and it will grow back etc etc. While I was contemplating this whole thing CJ called
and he sounded so happy and told me how much he LOVED his haircut and he didn't want to cut it. Meanwhile as blood is running down my mouth from biting my tongue my mother called on the other line to say my father had lost his mind in his old age and she would be taking him to the barbershop to fix it first thing, Tuesday morning. I thought..."there ain't no fixing that". You might as well shave it off and besides it's crooked. Then I just decided, whatever...it will grow back by the time I see him on the 28th. At least he's not a girl. He's having the time of his life.

The next two weeks should fly by I guess. I have millions of things to do before our team leaves for Vegas next week. The boys will arrive on Tuesday only to turn right back around as we hope on the road to Nationals. Unfortunately while we are gone CJ will miss the first week of football conditining but I think he'll be okay. I think the whole town has asked me "when is CJ coming home".

Yesterday I received information for the start of school in the mail. I can't believe we are less than a month from school beginning. Craziness. It seems that summer just began.

By the Way - My albums of the summer - Maxwell as the top of my list followed by Ginuwine and Goapele...love them!


Friday Update

Little glum the last few days but I'm not letting it get me down. Couple of things.
I broke the computer. I blew it out with airdust to get all this crappy central valley dust out of it and since I did whenever I go on youtube or any site with tons of graphics it overheats and shuts down. I know it has something to do with the fan but I don't know how to fix it.

The boys leave next week for Texas to go visit ya-ya for a week. CJ is already there and I know the big boys are anxious to get away. My mom asked me to send Cayden but I don't want to ruin their vacation by sending the little "terror" so he'll be home getting loved up for a little bit. Loved up or tied up...one of the two.

It's mid summer and hot as hell. It's been between 102 and 105 the last few days. I'm enjoying but it's just stifling on somedays. I tried to lay out in it and get a little darker but it's just TOO DAMN HOT!

Got a few things going on in my mind lately. Just a mix of stuff. I'm spinning a little bit. Trying to teach myself to just be quiet and listen for a minute when this happens instead of freaking out. hhhmmmm we'll see.

Eminem feels me. He wrote a song about it.


RIP Steve

I feel as if there is something I should say about Steve McNair.I'm not quite sure what the correct words are. I've been thinking of it so much these last few days but I don't really know what to say. I feel so badly for his wife and their children. I'm sure most of what they are hearing right now is so painful. I can only hope that their family is sheltering them from much of this media attention.

As far as Steve, I've heard many different things and I can only hope that he somehow was able to make peace before his death but I just don't see how it was possible. I pray that his accomplishments in life will trump his bad decisions the last few months of his life. I can sit at a computer and say a million things but Mathew 7:1 said it best. "Judge not lest ye be judged". We've all done things that may "haunt" us, that we regret, or would hate for our families to know about after our deaths. John 8:7 "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone". If have avoided sin, well then good for you. What a saint you are. I guess that is why the Lord allows us to repent.

I believe for some of us, it is indeed a wake up call about how we would like to be remembered in life. To make better decisions, choose better people, love our families immensely for we never know when our time will come...... but most of all to WATCH and PRAY. God is seriously trying to get our attention in a major way. Not that so many celebrity deaths should be a wake up call because there is death each day, but the fact that those that have everything can loose it in an instance is what is a reality check for many. My minor problems in life are nothing compared to what others may be going through.

Blessings to the McNair family. Love life each day people, love all, appreciate, take care and most of all thank God.

Just a couple new favorites

Ginuwine is back ya'll. Don't sleep on him


Hello Folks

Just a quick hello to let my folks know that I'm alive and kicking. Summertime has been CRAZY BUSY. It seems as if I haven't had a moment. My business is taking off,made it through CJ and Cayden's bday, the booth at the fair is finally over, I took a short vacation to LV and came back with some change in my pocket, I washed and dryed my ipod so I'm currently reloading my new one, I'm still working on me...both physically and mentally. I'm so very happy right now. I have another crazy week ahead preparing my babies for football camp and CJ is still gone to Texas visiting his ya-ya and papa. I've included some pics of my summer so far.

Love to all...it's coming together.


(Cayden's Birthday trip to Great America)
(My new ipod)
(Vegas getting some sun and rest and relaxation)
(Margarita anyone?)
(Unaccompanied Minor on his way to Texas)
(Anniversary Gift)